How to Plan Your Perfect Elopement: A Step-by-Step Guide
So, you’ve decided to elope! I have to say—congrats on breaking free from the norm and choosing to create a day that’s all about you two. There’s something incredibly magical about saying “I do” in a way that’s intimate, personal, and totally authentic to your love story. No fuss, no stress, just an epic adventure to celebrate your commitment.
Planning an elopement might seem a little daunting at first, especially since it’s not your average wedding. But guess what? That’s the beauty of it—there are no rules! Your elopement can be exactly what you want it to be. It’s all about throwing out tradition and embracing what feels right for you.
This elopement planning guide is here to help you navigate each step of the process with ease. From dreaming up your perfect day to planning out the nitty-gritty details, I’ve got you covered. Let’s dive in!
Easy Steps To Planning Your Elopement
- Dreaming Up Your Perfect Elopement Day
- Imagining Your Day with No Boundaries
- Inspiration from Your Favorite Memories
- Brainstorming the Ideal Location and Experience
- Making Key Decisions Early
- Who’s Invited? Deciding on Guests or Keeping it Intimate
- Choosing the Right Location and Season for Your Elopement
- Deciding on a Single Day or Multi-Day Celebration
- Crafting the Details
- Booking Vendors and Choosing Your Photographer
- Planning Out Activities: Adventure, Relaxation, and Everything in Between
- Wedding Attire and Packing Essentials
- Creating Your Timeline
- Crafting a Relaxed Schedule with Time for Adventure
- How to Leave Room for Spontaneity on Your Elopement Day
- Deciding on Ceremony and Portrait Times (Sunrise vs. Sunset)
Dreaming Up Your Perfect Elopement Day
Imagining Your Day with No Boundaries
The first step in planning your elopement is to dream big. Forget about logistics for a second. Close your eyes and imagine what your perfect day would look like if there were no boundaries—no expectations, no judgments, just pure joy. This is your chance to create a wedding day that makes you feel alive and in love.
Are you standing on top of a mountain after a hike, the wind in your hair and the world at your feet? Or maybe you’re barefoot on a sandy beach, the sound of waves crashing behind you as you exchange vows. Whether it’s an adventure-packed day or a laid-back moment in a quiet spot that holds meaning for you both, your elopement should be a reflection of your relationship.
Pro tip: Make this brainstorming session a date night! Grab a glass of wine, put on your favorite playlist, and dream together about what your perfect day would feel like. No idea is too big or too crazy at this stage.
Inspiration from Your Favorite Memories
Not sure where to start? Think about some of your favorite memories as a couple. What are the best days you’ve spent together? Were you exploring a new city, hiking in nature, or simply lounging in a cozy cabin? Let these memories inspire the kind of experience you want to create for your elopement.
For example, if you’ve always loved road trips, why not plan a multi-location elopement where you stop at a few breathtaking spots along the way? Or, if you’re beach lovers, plan an elopement at sunrise on a secluded beach followed by a relaxed picnic with your favorite foods. Your past experiences together can be a huge source of inspiration for your special day.
Brainstorming the Ideal Location and Experience
Once you’ve tapped into your imagination and memories, it’s time to start thinking about your ideal location. What kind of scenery makes your heart race? Mountains, forests, deserts, beaches, or maybe even an urban rooftop overlooking the city lights?
Take into consideration what kind of activities you love. If you’re outdoor adventurers, a hike to a remote location could be perfect. Prefer something more chill? A cozy Airbnb in the woods or a vineyard elopement might be more your style. The possibilities are endless, and the location will play a big part in setting the tone for your day.
If you need help finding specific locations in Colorado, check out all my Colorado Elopement Location Guides.
Making Key Decisions Early
Who’s Invited? Deciding on Guests or Keeping it Intimate
One of the best parts of eloping is the intimacy—you can keep it just the two of you, or you can invite a small group of your closest family and friends. There’s no right or wrong answer here, only what feels best for you.
If you’re leaning towards a guest list, think carefully about who you’d truly want to share that intimate moment with. Will they add to the magic of your day, or will it feel like you’re accommodating others’ expectations? Keep it simple, and make sure anyone who’s invited is 100% on board with your vision.
On the other hand, if you’re craving a “just us” vibe, go for it! You can always celebrate with loved ones later on with a post-elopement party.
My advice, plan an elopement that feels right for you!
If you’re considering involving family in your elopement, explore my insights on Eloping with Family for tips and advice.
Choosing the Right Location and Season for Your Elopement
Now that you’ve got an idea of the type of elopement location you want, it’s time to narrow it down. Think about the season that speaks to you. Do you envision a springtime elopement? An elopement with wildflowers in bloom? Or maybe you’re drawn to the golden hues of autumn, or a winter wonderland in the mountains. Plan your elopement for a time of year that fits your vibe.
Seasonality will play a huge role in what’s possible at your location. For instance, some hiking trails are only accessible in the summer, while others are perfect for snowshoeing in the winter. Do your research and make sure the timing aligns with the vision you have for your day.
If you’re considering a winter ceremony, my Winter Elopement Guide offers essential tips for planning in colder weather.
Deciding on a Single Day or Multi-Day Celebration
Eloping doesn’t have to fit into a single day! If you’re feeling adventurous, consider stretching out the experience over two or more days. You could spend one day adventuring and exploring, and the next day focusing on your vows and portraits. This gives you the chance to really soak in the moment without feeling rushed.
A multi-day elopement also allows for more flexibility if you want to involve family and friends. For example, you could have an intimate ceremony with just the two of you one day and then celebrate with loved ones the next.
To help with your timing, see my post on the Best Month to Elope in Colorado for seasonal planning tips.
Crafting the Details
Booking Vendors and Choosing Your Photographer
Here’s the fun part—bringing your vision to life by partnering with vendors who get you. I may be biased but I think the most important vendor, of course, is your photographer. Your elopement is going to be full of beautiful, once-in-a-lifetime moments, and you’ll want someone who knows how to capture them without making it feel like a photoshoot.
When choosing a photographer, look for someone whose style matches the vibe you’re going for. Do they capture candid moments in a way that feels authentic? Are they adventurous enough to follow you on a hike or creative enough to find unique angles? Don’t be afraid to hop on a call and see if you vibe with their personality, too—after all, they’ll be with you for one of the most important days of your life. I’d also suggest finding a photographer who can help you plan your elopement (me!).
Beyond photography, think about what other vendors might enhance your experience. Maybe you want a private chef to cook you a romantic dinner after your ceremony, or a florist to design a stunning bouquet that reflects the beauty of your surroundings. Choose vendors who align with your vision and make the day stress-free.
Wondering about officiating your ceremony? Read about What is Self-Solemnization? to understand your options.
Planning Out Activities: Adventure, Relaxation, and Everything in Between
Eloping isn’t just about the ceremony—it’s about the entire experience!
Say that one more time for the people in back – Eloping isn’t just about the ceremony—it’s about the entire experience!
Whether you’re hiking to a hidden waterfall, kayaking on a serene lake, or simply lounging in a hammock with your partner, this is your chance to craft a day full of moments that make you feel alive. Plan an elopement day activity that you will enjoy doing!
Ask yourselves: What do we love to do together? What activities would make this day feel unforgettable? For some couples, that might mean packing in adrenaline-pumping adventures like rock climbing or paragliding. For others, it could be a slower pace—sipping wine in a vineyard or watching the sunset over the ocean.
The beauty of eloping is that you have the freedom to make the day exactly what you want it to be. Whether it’s action-packed or low-key, just make sure it feels true to you both.
Looking for unique activities to incorporate into your day? Check out my Ultimate Elopement Activity Idea Guide for fun suggestions!
Wedding Attire and Packing Essentials
Let’s talk outfits! Your elopement attire should make you feel comfortable, confident, and most importantly, like you. If hiking is involved, you might want to opt for something lightweight and easy to move in. But if you’re headed to a more accessible location, feel free to go all out with that dreamy dress or sharp suit you’ve been eyeing.
Remember, this is your day—there are no rules. You can wear a traditional white gown or something completely unconventional. Whether it’s a flowing dress, a chic jumpsuit, or casual attire, what matters is that you feel incredible in it.
And don’t forget the essentials! Depending on your location, you may need to pack extra layers, hiking boots, sunscreen, or even snacks to keep you fueled throughout the day. Be sure to plan ahead and bring everything you need for a comfortable, stress-free experience.
For guidance on finding the perfect dress, visit my post on Picking the Perfect Elopement Dress.
Creating Your Timeline
Crafting a Relaxed Schedule with Time for Adventure
Planning your elopement timeline is key! Now that you’ve got all the key pieces in place, it’s time to put together a timeline that allows you to enjoy every moment of your day. One of the best parts of eloping is the freedom to create a relaxed, flexible schedule that flows naturally.
If you’re planning an adventure elopement, make sure you give yourselves plenty of time to travel to your ceremony spot, explore the area, and capture those epic portraits. But don’t forget to build in time to just be together—whether that’s sharing a quiet moment before your ceremony, enjoying a meal, or taking a break to soak in the view.
How to Leave Room for Spontaneity on Your Elopement Day
One thing I can’t stress enough—leave room for spontaneity! The best elopement days are the ones where unexpected magic happens. Maybe you stumble across a hidden waterfall or take a detour that leads to an unforgettable view. When you’re not tied to a rigid schedule, you can fully embrace the unexpected moments that make your day truly special.
Allow yourselves the flexibility to go with the flow. If the weather changes or you decide you want to stop and take in a breathtaking scene for a little longer, do it! This is your day, and you’re in control.
Deciding on Ceremony and Portrait Times (Sunrise vs. Sunset)
When planning your elopement timeline, consider when you want to hold your ceremony and take portraits. Sunrise and sunset are the most popular times for elopements, and for good reason—the lighting is soft, the world is quiet, and the scenery is often at its most stunning.
If you’re morning people, a sunrise elopement might be perfect for you. You’ll get to start your day with an intimate ceremony as the world wakes up around you. On the other hand, if you prefer to sleep in and enjoy a slower morning, a sunset elopement can offer that golden, romantic light that feels magical.
No matter how you choose to elope, the most important thing is that the day is yours. Eloping is all about breaking free from expectations and creating a wedding day that feels true to your relationship. Whether you’re hiking to a secluded spot, saying your vows in a cozy cabin, or simply relaxing in each other’s company, the day is meant to be a reflection of your love. So go ahead—dream big, plan with intention, and create the most epic, unforgettable day of your lives!
Crafting Your Perfect Elopement Day with Confidence and Support
Planning your elopement is an exciting journey where you get to design a day that’s truly you. I hope this guide has sparked your imagination and given you the confidence to dream up the perfect day, from an epic adventure to those quiet, intimate moments that speak to your relationship. If you’re feeling inspired and want to talk more about how to bring your vision to life, I’d love to chat!
When it comes to capturing the essence of your day—from the breathtaking location to the raw, emotional moments—I’m here to be your go-to resource. With plenty of experience in adventure elopements and a passion for telling love stories through photography, I can help you plan and document your day in a way that feels effortless and meaningful.
And if you’re looking for more detailed insights, tips, and inspiration, don’t forget to check out my elopement guide. It’s packed with everything you need to plan the elopement of your dreams! Let’s make it happen, together.
This elopement planning guide was exactly what I needed! So many great tips I hadn’t even thought of before. You made everything seem so doable and less overwhelming. Thank you!
I’m so happy to hear this! Elopement planning can feel overwhelming, but it’s all about breaking it down into steps that make it fun and personal. Wishing you the best as you plan your day!
Thank you for such a detailed breakdown! I’ve been struggling to figure out how to start planning our elopement, and your guide has seriously helped us get organized!
I’m thrilled that the guide helped you get organized! Starting is always the hardest part, but now that you’re on your way, everything else will fall into place. Enjoy the process!
I’ve read so many guides, but yours was by far the most comprehensive and practical. We’re using a lot of your ideas for our upcoming elopement!
It means the world to know that my guide stood out for you. I’m excited that you’re using the ideas and can’t wait to see how it all comes together for your day!
Your guide to planning an elopement was beyond helpful. It’s amazing how you covered everything from location scouting to day-of details!
Thank you! I really wanted to make sure every detail was covered. It’s great to hear that it helped you think through all those little pieces that make your day truly yours.
We had no idea where to start with our elopement plans, but after reading this, we finally feel like we’re on track. Thank you for such a thoughtful and thorough guide!
I’m so happy to hear that the guide gave you a starting point! Getting on track is half the battle, and now you’re ready to plan the day that’s perfect for the two of you.
Wow, this blog was so helpful in making sense of the elopement process. We were clueless before, but now we feel ready to start planning!
“I’m so glad this guide brought clarity to the process for you! Elopements are all about what feels right to you, and now you’re ready to dive into planning your perfect day.
ive been so stressed about where to start, but this helped me feel like I actually have a direction now. do you have any advice on choosing vendors when we’re doing such a small elopement?
Sophie, I’m so glad the guide gave you some clarity! Vendor selection is super important even for intimate elopements. I recommend looking for vendors who specialize in small weddings or adventure elopements, as they’ll understand the vibe you’re going for. If you need help with recommendations, let me know!